The Political War Regarding Abortion Is Not About CAFAB Trans People

And that is NOT a cissexist thing to say.

1. I am a person who, while my fertility is reduced because of a hormone disorder, has the capacity to become pregnant. I have a fully functional uterus, Fallopian tubes, and (almost) ovaries.

2. I have recently had a terrifying pregnancy scare, and had to think about where I could get an abortion at this late in a pregnancy (the answer was essentially nowhere). Thankfully, I did not turn out to be pregnant, because abortion is the only option for me.

3. I am not a woman. And the people fighting against abortion rights either don’t care that I exist, or are disregarding me in their war to control women’s reproductive choices and capabilities.

If they ever thought for a second that non women or men might be affected by abortion restrictions, things would immediately be reconsidered. Of course, men would have the emotional fortitude to decide to bring a child into this world. Of course, men should have control over all of the consequences of sex, because women are just hysterical and make up things about a “war on women”.

I am affected by abortion restrictions. I am not a women. And the conversations and fights about men controlling the pregnancy choices of cis women should NOT include side notes about my existence. Because this war on women is not a war on cafab trans people, it is a war on cis women. Bringing up cafab trans people is essentially misogynistic because we are just getting hit with spray from the huge wave crashing down on cis women’s rights to choose things about their bodies. It is distracting to bring us up and takes away from the real point of abortion restrictions, which is to control the reproduction choices of women and to ensure women carry children like they are “supposed to.”

Though this post is specifically about abortion, trans women are essentially ignored in discussions about reproductive healthcare - hormones are given to cis women whose bodies so not produce them where trans women aren’t, trans women are subject to extreme violence and murder. trans women have much much higher rates of HIV and other STIs. Leaving trans women out of the conversation about reproductive rights and women’s healthcare is transmisogynistic because they are women and are directly affected by the war to control women’s bodies (would the abortion restriction talk exclude cis women who are not yet fertile or who are not fertile?)

CAFAB trans people are not the point of restrictions of women’s healthcare. We might get hit by accident, but bringing us up when talking about abortion restrictions is ignoring what the conversation is actually about.

If someone were to die at the age of 63 after a lifelong battle with MS or Sickle Cell, we’d all say they were a “fighter” or an “inspiration.” But when someone dies after a lifelong battle with severe mental illness and drug addiction, we say it was a tragedy and tell everyone “don’t be like him, please seek help.” That’s bullshit. Robin Williams sought help his entire life. He saw a psychiatrist. He quit drinking. He went to rehab. He did this for decades. That’s HOW he made it to 63. For some people, 63 is a fucking miracle. I know several people who didn’t make it past 23 and I’d do anything to have 40 more years with them.

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One of the more helpful and insightful things I’ve seen about depression/suicide in the last couple of days.

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I probably should have realized I was asexual when I thought “turn-on” just meant finding something cute/attractive and not an actual physical reaction.



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i maybe get tattoo on saturday???

it might be pretty????

don’t tell my mom???




the best part about being in your 20’s is slowly caring less and less about what people think of you and surrounding yourself with good people

the worst is that I’m broke

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this stick figure has no face so why the fuck can I tell exactly what its feeling

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Friendship is really important, and it’s important to keep that knowledge that it’s important, otherwise you keep not making a lot of new friends. You end up with the old friends that you’ve had forever. I love the possibility that you could meet someone tomorrow and they could be the most important person you’ve ever met in your life.
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My partner is home and it is like part of my heart is back.

I feel this way about a few other people too but this is so nice

I got discharged from partial hospitalization to intensive outpatient today.

I am finally on the right combination of mood stabilizers, benzos, SSRIs, and alpha-blockers. I have not felt like this since I was thirteen.

I went to see my nerd family on Saturday and felt my heart almost burst out of my chest with healing and love.

I miss my partner.

I’m not ready to go back to work or take care of myself yet. But I am on my way. 

It feels good.

"We need to recognize that for some people sex is great and for some sex is horrific and for some it’s on par with folding laundry."


(~Sex Isn’t Always Good by queenieofaces)

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If milkshakes bring boys to the yard, what brings girls? Smoothies? What brings non-binary cuties? Frappucinos? I need to know.

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22, queer, transsexual androgyne (CAFAB), white, bipolar and also I have other mental illness disabilities. Physically disabled. Too severely anxious for your truscum bullshit. Don't be a transmisogynist.

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