Support and defend nonbinary teenagers who are exploring their gender.
Do not put the burden of cis ignorance and misunderstanding on their shoulders. Nonbinary kids creating new words and new pronouns are NOT responsible for cis people’s transphobia.
No, but they do make it harder for people to take transgender people and gender dysphoria seriously.
I’m going to start this off by saying this: It is in fact YOU who make it harder for people to take transgender people and gender dysphoria seriously. It is you and people like you who prevent me (a grown-ass adult androgyne who experiences gender dysphoria and who uses their own pronouns) from being considered a trans person and a person with dysphoria. By refusing to defend the existence of people forging ahead and making new genders or reclaiming genders squashed down violently with colonialism, you are causing cis people to further devalue us. By implying they aren’t serious people and their genders aren’t serious, you are making it literally impossible for cis people to take me (a trans person) seriously.
So, yo they are transgender people and many have gender dysphoria too…so without acknowledging them and respecting their gender, dysmorphia, and pronouns it kind of makes it impossible for people to transgender people and gender dysphoria seriously. Can’t take it seriously if you don’t understand it, amirite?
Also I am a grown-ass androgyne adult who uses pronouns that most people laugh at. I am a fucking adult. I have been out for four years now. Children and teenagers and adults and elders are all in the process of creating new words and new pronouns and exploring their gender. “Non binary teenagers” are not the people making it harder to take trans people seriously.
You know who is?
It’s you! By telling people exploring their identity and chipping away at Western colonialist gender binaries or, especially reclaiming genders and other things colonialism stole from them, you’re siding with Western, colonialist cis people.
That’s all you buddy. By saying what you just said, YOU are being cissexist and colonialist. YOU are making it “harder for people to take transgender people and gender dysphoria seriously” because you’re ignoring exactly what trans people and dyphoria is. YOU are spreading the mistakes about trans people and dysphoria around, not the people you perceive as childish teenagers trying to steal your hormones or whatever the fuck threat you think nonbinary people have to trans men.
Okay, now, I want to say that the Caps lock and the little bit of cursing was not to attack you. You’re a trans person, and I try to be a bit softer towards trans people.
You’re scared that people won’t take you seriously if you’re trans because of some other types of people who are also trans, and that is like throwing those trans people under the bus. You are taking the tiny bricks cis people have kicked off of their big ol platform where they kick things at trans people, and you’re throwing some of those rocks at nonbinary folks, especially non binary kids, in an attempt to show that you can behave just like cis people. How about instead of throwing rocks at nonbinary people, you help them dodge the cis people rocks and start helping everyone out.
If you think being associated with people who are non binary or who make up pronouns or identities makes you look bad or makes you be taken less seriously, try to imagine being one.
If people might lump you into someone who uses nounself pronouns at a job interview, and you might not get the job because of that, a nounself person will NEVER be able to work there and will never be able to be at an acceptable level of societal privilege for you to be satisfied with their existence.
Shit like this just really bothers me, because it’s all “these people make it harder for ME to get a job and for MY PARENTS to me seriously or HORMONES or DATING” and I’m just like actually “these people” in this situation so why don’t you shut the fuck up and realize that if being associated in those situations with “these people,” we have a hell of a lot harder of a time in them.